‘How to conquer fear, our greatest enemy!’ you might be wondering about the title. So, let me ask you a question when was the last time you did not feel afraid of anything for an entire day? It is difficult to remember a day like this, am I right? Fear and anxiety are both human emotions, and no one can completely get rid of them. Fear is supposed to act as an alarm for situations which require sudden reactions and can be called a ‘saviour emotion’ in instances where sound decisions are a need of the hour. However, over-information, misinterpretation or overthinking may lead to an immense amount of fear, which can, in turn, overpower your mind and can lead to dire circumstances.

Fear, if not put under control can kill you faster than any disease. How is it so? Let me explain.

Uncontrolled and extreme fear is the direct cause of various health and personality disorders. However, where does fear come from?

We human being in our day-to-day lives experience various kinds of fear:

• Fear of Pain
• Fear of Loss
• Fear of Failure and Embarrassment

In general, we fear the unknown or the repetition of a painful scene in the past. As kids, we feared injections, why? Simply because the memory of pain is attached to that of an injection in our minds. We do not want to undergo painful situations, be it physical or emotional. Certain people do not wish to invest emotionally in anything or anyone. Why? Because they are often stuck in the clock and fear that attachment might cause pain.

Money, being one of the most vital elements of human life, comes along with a fear of loss. Certain people do not spend on themselves, fearing that it would lead to a loss of money. Fear of failure, of any sort, keeps us from taking a step forward into anything new. Fear of change goes hand-in-hand with the fear of failure.

Don’t quit even before you’ve started. Let us know the reasons why fear is the biggest killer of all!

Paulo Coelho

• Effects on Physical Health: It has been proven by the research studies conducted all over the globe that stress and anxiety can directly lead to a deterioration of human health at an extreme level. An external stimulus or a thought acts as a stimulus for the brain to release stress hormones, primarily, cortisol, which is responsible for various changes in the body. Stress and anxiety directly lead to an increase in blood pressure, in turn posing a high risk of heart disease. It also curbs the immunity of the body, and its tendency to heal. This directly makes the body more susceptible to infectious diseases. An Imbalanced sleep cycle is another stress-related disorder which has an adverse impact on mental health.

• Effects on Mental Health: Anxiety directly hits your brain cells and may also be an outcome of a condition known as ‘Brain Fog’, a block, as you may say, wherein you are unable to make any decisions whatsoever. Fear of the unknown, or fear of change gives way to negativity. As I’ve told earlier in my previous blogs about the Law of Attraction, you tend to attract what you strongly believe. Constant and overpowering fear pushes you toward the realisation of your fears.

“Taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.”

Fyodor Dostoyevsky

There are a few simple steps you need to follow in order to take control of your fear and anxiety:

• Know Your Fears and Face Them Head On: A clarity of vision is necessary for achieving that goal. In the same manner, clarity and identification of your fear is the first step to tackle it. Once you know exactly what you’re fearful of, it becomes easy for you to find the required solutions.

“If you try to get rid of fear and anger without knowing their meaning, they will grow stronger and return.”

Deepak Chopra

• Meditation Helps Clear the Clutter:Regular meditation helps you to slow down your thought process in order to develop a sense of clarity. Stress arising due to misinformation or confusion is the worst to tackle. Analyzing all the sides of your fear is one way to take control over it.
• Physical Exercise:Regular exercise releases ‘hormones of happiness’ in your body and hence helps to conquer conditions such as ‘brain fog’. Increased blood circulation and adequate supply of oxygen to the brain has been proven to reduce anxiety and cure depression.
• Visualize Success: Imagine your success before you take upon a new challenge. Make sure to remain clear in your imagination and work towards that goal without paying heed to the thoughts of failure. Focussing on success will give your brain lesser opportunities to entertain the thoughts of anxiety.
• Have Gratitude for What You Have:  The universe will only continue providing for you as long as you appreciate what you have. If you’re grateful for the people and the material wealth you have in your current state, you worry less about the next moment. Effective communication and positive relationships with people around you have always helped reduce the thoughts of fear, loneliness and anxiety.

Cherish your relationships and friendships amidst these times of crisis. Owing to the CoVID-19 pandemic, where people are fearful of the virus and depressed about the current situation, it is important for us to realise that our fear in such circumstances is our greatest enemy! Focus on what you have and learn about natural ways to create wellness in life.

Register for 15 minutes free Power Coaching Session to utilize this time of crises to its best and turn the direction of your life towards positivity. Stay tuned for my upcoming blogs.

Till then, Stay Fearless, Healthy and Stress-Free!

The famous author Mark Manson, in his book known as ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***k’, says, 

“If it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself.” 

It is always you versus yourself. Things change when you begin leading your life this way. However, for numerous years, we have directed our minds to constantly deny our faults and blame things on our surroundings. 

1. Shifting The Blame Without Introspecting Within

Let me narrate an incident to explain this. Some time ago, in a party, I came across this person. My friend Nitin told me certain things about his life. The man was the founder and CEO of a famous beverage start-up which, in the last few months, was on the slope towards failure. Besides the hefty funds they received, the company had begun to lag in the market because their workforce had stopped being supportive. When I walked past him, I heard him blatantly blaming his employees and calling them ungrateful and sluggish. 

Nitin told me that in the recent past, the man’s employees had been complaining about his behaviour, and some had even resigned. The man was rude and mismanaged in his work. He used to call his employees for meetings on weekends or holidays, providing them with unrealistic reasons and often cancelled at the last minute. Such repeated acts were clearly a reason why his employees had stopped supporting him.  

Numerous attempts had been made by his closed ones to explain to him the real reason behind his downfall, but he refused to accept it. He deeply believed that his employees were at fault.  

This was his blindspot!  

And this is where I realised that most of us constantly dwell in our blindspots. A blind state is not healthy for your mind. You need to remove your blindspot in order to move forward in life and accept your responsibility towards shaping your life. Let me explain this better through the Law of Attraction.  Your life is constantly getting shaped with or without your knowledge. How so? Every decision you take, be it small or big, makes a difference in your life. Often do we wonder, 

“How come these successful people are always so confident? Do they never make wrong decisions?”

The answer to these questions can be easily understood with the proper understanding of the Law of Attraction. Every decision is correct if taken confidently and for the benefit of the others, hence, people who take decisions without any doubt, always tend to be successful in life. Law of Attraction has one basic rule: 

For the law to work, Desire and Action need to be present, however there should be no place for Doubt. When was the last time you gave an advice to a colleague, or a friend? How easy or difficult was it? We do not hesitate while making decisions for others. While counselling others, we do not give in to doubt. However, while deciding or taking an action for ourselves, we often spend days as well as months before reaching a conclusion.  

What do you need to do or eat to remain healthy? What should be your daily routine? Most of us have been aware of the answers to these questions for years, but have we really begun to bring them into action? We spend hours planning, thinking about what we should or should not do. Being practical and taking actual decisions for yourself is the tricky part. 

2. Harbouring Superstitions Rising From Self Doubt

Doubt emerges mostly from our past experiences. Here, let me introduce the concept of Power Centre, i.e. the collection of beliefs (stored in our subconscious) which is a result of positive as well as negative experiences in the past. We often dwell on our past for the decisions we make in the present.  Dwelling in the past gives rise to superstitions!

Let’s say, you have failed an exam when you slept early the night before the exam. Your past belief will not let you sleep before the next exam. You’ll always be scared and will try your best to study till late at night. If somehow, you fall asleep the previous night, you’ll sit for the exam with a truck load of fear in your heart and eventually end up forgetting what you learnt! As explained in my previous blog, the Law of Attraction shall work perfectly in this case. 

This is how doubt, and in most cases, superstition forms a part of your subconscious.  

It is your responsibility to constantly make choices from the positive power centre and not from the negative power centre. Make use of your past for motivation! This is one of the few ways to direct the Law of Attraction in your favour! 

Do away with doubt and remove the blindspots which keep you from your dreams and life goals! 

Stay tuned for my next blog where I’ll explain the do’s and don’ts that will allow the Law of Attraction to work in your favour!

If you want to understand how and where to start, let’s have a conversation.

Till then, Stay Positive! Stay healthy and Stress-free!